Thursday 9 March 2017

LIFE MANAGEMENT -- CAPT AJIT VADAKAYIL

Managing your own life is more important that all other forms of management. 

Hinduism , the oldest religion -- is a just way of managing life.  Bhagavad Gita is all about BEING IN THE MOMENT.

Man is the only living creature who can control or change his life. He is not a slave to his surroundings or at the mercy of nature. 

Knowledge is the only weapon which follows the owner everywhere.  Knowledge has to be challenged and improved constantly.

Man has 3 sides to his nature –body, mind and spirit . A proper balance between the 3 is desired. If any of the 3 is undeveloped he will suffer in life.

Life is a combination or physical, intellectual and spiritual aspects. Without spiritual development , man is without love or positive emotions ( affection, care, respect, sympathy ) .  

Effective life management means creating an equilibrium – in short success.  Without positive emotions man cant be happy.

A wise man can live in peace with things he cannot change. Never try to do things you cant.What is the point in teaching a donkey to sing. It is a sheer waste of time and effort. A student who has failed must not blame the question paper or examiner. He was not prepared. Be prepared—win some , lose some—but at least you tried.

Nature follows the law, use it or lose it.  There is this famous yogi  who went into severe penance for 20 years by standing on one leg and keeping one hand lifted up. By the time he finished his lifted up hand had shrivelled .

You must fight and make your own life on the planet. Don’t expect anybody else to do it for you.  Make most of the best and least of the worst. Man alone is the architect of his destiny.  Inaction is worse than no action at all. 

No dream can become true unless you have some skill and go to work. Check out what skills are most needed in the market.  Choose a job you love, then you don’t have to work a day in your life. Hunt or get hunted. 

Belief is the power behind all accomplishments. The man who wins is the man who thinks he can.  Faith and trust are the seeds which bring the sweet fruits of success. Faith is about “ can do”  think “ it is possible”  it gives you new energy. Faith is the bird which sings when the dawn is still dark.

Will power is the decision to carry on the fight. Self esteem is required to make a person mentally healthy.

Friendship is like a plant –it must be watered and nurtured. Emotional health cannot be grown alone. Man is a social animal. We need family and friends to improve our emotional health. No one can lead a healthy life in isolation. Acceptance between man and society must be 2 way. Society will accept you if you follow the norms and when you are of some use to others.

A mentally healthy person learns to evaluate himself , his own performance and behaviour. An unusual amount of commonsense is called wisdom. Wisdom is discriminating between right and wrong. Knowledge is about knowing more and more—WISDOM IS ABOUT KNOWING  LESS AND LESS .

To be successful you must be exited about life. Life is a festival only to those who live with enthusiasm.  Lack of enthusiasm wrinkles the soul. 

Try to see a situation as it is from different angles and not as you want. If your life is free of opportunities then you are not taking enough risks. If you want peace you must be prepared for war.  Only an asshole will  start digging a well, when he gets thirsty.

It is not enough to aim, you must hit. Failure to hit the bulls eye is never the fault of the target. You have to choose your own goal, at the same time follow social norms. Belief in predetermined destiny is the only refuge of weak minds. Take responsibility for your failures. 

Self respect commands respect from others.  If you don’t know simply say so. Frankness does not require being brutally so.  True salesmanship starts when the customer says NO.  A kite rises only against the wind.

Remove all ugly looking things from your surroundings.. Avoid people whom you don’t like. Don’t discuss topics you don’t relish. Don’t think about people whom you don’t like.

Good manners are the best letters of recommendation.  Bad manners reduce our acceptability in society, thereby affecting our social relations. A good laugh is the best medicine..  Laughter is a tranquiliser with no side effects.  Laughter is the cheapest luxury, it electrifies the nerves and cleanse the system.

Prayer renews our internal strength during rough weather. A prayer is to the soul what air is to the lungs. ( take this form a hardcore sailor who has never said a prayer in his life –even when his ship was 35 miles off super typhoon Bart at 925 mb atmospheric pressure and 225 knots of wind ). After studying Quantum physics I do feel nowadays that Prayer is powerful.

Better a thousand enemies outside the house than one inside. 

Carelessness can do more harm than lack of knowledge. It should not become a habit. If carelessness is not trying to know the destructive forces, negligence is overlooking the destructive forces.

There is nothing that wastes the body and mind like worry. Worries are more about yesterday and tomorrow. Don’t take tomorrow to bed with you.  There is a difference between planning and worrying. Planning is constructive, worry is destructive. 

Try to forget useless things. To remember everything is to make your mind a dustbin. 

Love is food for the soul. Jealousy is poison for the soul.  Better to forgive and forget than hate and remember. Fear tends to produce the things we are afraid of.

The greatest wealth is contentment with little. It consists in simple wants.  Try to live slightly below your means. 

Too much glamour is like too much spices. It harms.

The blatant display of status symbols  is the result of low self esteem. The self confident person can afford to project a modest image.

It is better to aim at a good thing and miss than to aim at a bad thing and hit.

The best time to solve a problem is as soon at it happens. Reward yourself every time you achieve success. It pays to reward yourself. It give give a boost to your zeal to achieve the next goal.

No process takes place without a principle. Principle is the cause and process is the effect.  Principles are fair and impartial to all, incl the non living things at all place and time.

WE CANNOT CREATE OR DESTROY THE ENERGY OR MATTER IN THE UNIVERSE. BUT WE CAN SURELY CHANGE ITS FORM.

You cannot change your past, you cannot survive without water, you cannot change natures principle. The only solution is to accept things as they are.

No single agency can make a process happen. A process happens when at lest 2 agencies play a complimentary role.

Life is a grindstone -- whether is powders you to dust or polishes you depends on what you are made of.

The purpose of life is not only to be happy, but also to be creative , productive and useful—to make a difference that you lived at all on this planet.  There is no experience better for the heart than to reach down and lift people.

The smallest good deed is better than the grandest good attention.

You have to bring meaning to your own life a painting or a song-- a celebration NOT a competition.  Real richness consists of a singing heart-- Seriousness is a disease.

-- NOT a Donald Trump type money arrogant character ( and there are so many richer people that him on this planet- he and his side kicks must be surely under severe delusion !).

Such ugly rich people can shout " You are Fired!" --  deep inside he is a joyless and unloved beggar. There is no beauty , grace and peace. He can try to create grace with money -- but alas , grace is spiritual and comes as a flowering of your being. Life cannot be event managed.

Only people with inferiority complex wants to impress others. What matters is how you played the game--not whether you lost or won-- or was fired!

Do not go around copying others signatures. All imitations are plastic. There is great joy in being ordinary. Live life a bit hot, burn the torch at both ends , throw all the paint you can on the canvas of life-- but your innermost core must be cool.

Never fall into the same hole twice. The first fall can be deemed as experience. Only what you experience is yours.

Truth blossoms only in individual freedom. It can never happen to a crowd. If you surrender your freedom and individuality big brother and the society will give you great posts and respectability. Dare to be who you are.

You are responsible only to yourself. No order is higher than your own intelligence.

Creating guilt in you is the oldest trick of all religions. A happy person carries his own temple around him. Repressed sexuality causes almost all diseases.A man of awareness never reacts and so is unpredictable.

Eliminate the needless wants of life. Never feel shy to show feelings.

You must allow life its freedom. All perfectionism is a deep ego trip. Never betray a trust.  Get along with people. Use soft words and hard arguments . Laugh, have fun. Most of your pain is self chosen.

You are in this river of life only for a short time on a raft--very soon 100% , you will plunge down the waterfall and die.  Enjoy the fish you caught--don't keep fishing like a moron --for you cant take it all to your grave. Don't be in awe of death and demean life on the  raft. YOU CANT BANISH THE DANGERS , BUT YOU CAN BANISH YOUR FEARS.


You have succeeded in life when all you really want is only what you really need. 


YOU ARE NEVER A LOSER UNLESS YOU QUIT TRYING.! 

One day you find, 10 years have got behind you. No one told you when to run, you missed the starting gun. - Pink Floyd

CAPT AJIT VADAKAYIL
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